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Former high end call girl writes confessional book on her double life.

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Prostitution. Dr Brooke Magnanti these days is a practicing doctor/researcher but at one point in her life she was a high end call girl who used to go by the name as Belle de Jour  charging upwards of 300 for sexual trysts. All of which resulted in her penning a blog in disguise as well as two books and now her third, ‘The Sex Myth: Why everything we’re told is wrong,’ in which she openly now reveals her identity.

According to Dr Brooke Magnanti who these days works as a researcher at Bristol Initiative for Research for Child Health, society may have a healthy dose of double values when it comes to sex, especially when it willfully seeks it and pays for it. Take for example the fact that during 2003-4 Dr Brooke Magnanti worked as a high end call girl in part to scrap some quick money to pay off university debts (so she tells us) and in part what I suspect was her own curiosity on the matter having been introduced to the topic rather casually by her father who would openly introduce her to prostitutes he’d bring round to the house to one suspects his own ‘exploration.’

What principally beguiles the former high end call girl is society’s discrimination of said individuals who opt to do pursue being a prostitute versus the complete lack of condemnation of those individuals who choose to hire such individuals. So odd and hypocritical does it strike Dr Magnanti she was willing to dive head in and explore the terrain for herself. Ultimately it proved to be a very useful undertaking but Dr Magnanti will be the first to tell you she’s not entirely positive she’s necessary done her reputation any great favors as people still openly condemn those of us in society who choose to pursue what is commonly known to be the oldest profession in the world.

That said there was a time when her reputation elicited a lot of wonder and curiosity as she set about clandestinely publishing notes about her experiences, leading many in the public to wonder out aloud who the madame’s real identity was. It was only after 2 books came out and a blog caught traction that Dr Brooke Magnanti let on with an exclusive with the Sunday Times in 2009.

telegraph.co.uk:  Her new book, The Sex Myth, fuses her personae as research scientist and sex worker. And it’s good: powerful in its exposé of knee-jerk reactions and shoddy science, social or otherwise. The chapters challenging feminist assumptions about pornography and the sex trade look likely to prove constructively controversial. It deserves to do at least as well as the books with Billie Piper’s lithe form emblazoned on them.

But here’s the real treat, according to Dr Brooke who was then earning 300 pounds for a two hour session (circa $450-500 US dollars) and getting to keep a third of it while the rest went to the house she was able to meet her future husband (which frankly hardly surprises this author as the act of paying for sex can elicit a type of raw connection that one perhaps wouldn’t expect to come in normal courtships).

She met her husband in Bristol under the casual sex section of the website Gumtree. “You turned it into a relationship?” I ask, mock-shocked by such a breach of decorum. He is 34 and from Birmingham, a “feminist” who relishes debating her writing. She told him about her past when she realised she had the potential to fall in love with him. She has had sex with “hundreds” of people, he nine. They live in Lochaber surrounded by new apple trees, and deer, who like to eat apple trees.

In The Sex Myth, Magnanti makes clear that she feels that feminism’s attitude towards going on the game unites it with some unlikely bedfellows. “I cannot get past the idea that a number of feminists are OK with joining forces with people who do not agree with very much of what feminism is about for the sake of this one issue, and actively rejecting people like me who agree with most things feminism stands for apart from this one issue… Why would I want to be a member of a group that’s actively rejecting me? I’m the anti-Groucho Marx.”

But where her thoughts become intriguing is when Dr Brooke acknowledges is that if it’s all right for a woman to cash in on her looks, her body and even her womb and her eggs for vitro infertilization then why is it that that a woman who chooses to sell her ability to have sex or not judged so harshly principally ironically as it turns out, by other women themselves?

Reflects Dr Brooke: “If you want to identify a population that has been consistently discriminated against, it is up there with racism, with religion. There is the assumption that, once you have crossed this line, you never go back and that it says something about you as a person and your ability to do other things.”

She may have a valid point, why is it that a man can be pay a woman for sex or just simply sexually exploit for the conquest of sex where as a woman is expected or desired by her partner to be a slut in the bedroom it holds that she better have or been one in real life? What then are we really saying about our attitudes towards women and why do we hold women to such absurd standards? Is it simply an idea that we’d like to believe that all women are like our mothers except our mothers were never sluts except someone else’s?

 

 

 

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