Kristen Stewart may have simply sought to bring composure to the ensuing fracas around her but by apologizing for her purported transgressions she ended up exposing herself to a new unforeseen dangers….
As commentators race to offer their thoughts on one of the most high profile public break ups in recent times (well there was the Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes only recently and that too received tremendous attention), Canadian journal, theglobeandmail has come out with a convincing line of thought that posits whether Kristen Stewart had sex or not is not any one’s concern except that whom she may have had sex with or whom she may have possibly betrayed. In short this is a private affair and not a public incident that warranted the actress having to go out and apologize for her perceived indiscretions.
globeandmail: In a quickly issued mea culpa, the 22-year-old Twilight star apologized for causing “hurt and embarrassment” and “jeopardizing the most important thing in [her] life.” Strange: Her career seems just fine. What she meant, ostensibly at least, was her relationship with fictional vampire lover and boyfriend Rob Pattinson. Only, she didn’t say this over the phone to Rob. She said it, via press release, to whom it might concern. That’s a lot of people.
Didn’t say it over the phone because one gets the impression that Robert Pattinson only found out about the affair the way we all did. By reading about it in the press. Could you imagine the horror and the sense of dread the young man must have felt? Nevertheless in some perverse way it is some what fitting (as if this off screen drama where it’s own mini tele movie that we are watching scene by scene unfold) that Kristen Stewart did choose to apologize publicly. Not that she was ever obliged to. Then again even Ms Stewart is all too cognizant at what is at stake and as so much as she was apologizing to Robert Pattinson, she was really apologizing to diehard Twilight fans who see her as their ultimate spiritual leader and role model, a role that Ms Stewart has been somewhat reluctant to completely embrace, understandably so.
Whom Stewart is having sex with should concern whom she is having sex with and whom those people are having sex with – and nobody else. Stewart is not a Mormon running for public office on higher moral ground. She is not your sex-addiction swami. She’s an actor and a human and 22 years old. Her celebrity makes her a role model to tweenybopper know-nothings, but only insofar as she chooses and plays her roles, then promotes them in public. Twilight’s scare-tactical orthodoxy about sex and abstinence is as punishing as the Old Testament.
Yes she’s an actress, but she is also at the age of 22 one of the world’s highest paid actresses and with that comes the implied passage that one’s life is open for complete inspection, not that we should wish that on Ms Stewart but that unfortunately is the reality of her position and situation.
But here’s where it gets real meaty:
I have yet to see a Hollywood tartlet apologize for weighing 95 pounds, or for playing dumb to stay popular, or for always being the sidekick when there’s action. I’ve not heard one sorry from one girl who gets banked by Maybelline to make my kid sisters feel bad about themselves. I’m not saying they should be sorry. But if we are going to have girlpologies, let’s have them for the whole host of patriarchy-enabled behaviours that, at least in my own baby-femme experience, had far stickier and more perturbing effects than any bedroom scandal.
True, I haven’t seen a starlet apologizing for weighing 95 pounds or for relentlessly appearing in photo ops when one senses they resent it, but once again we go back to the bitter reality that Hollywood is a merciless business which seeks to milk as much profits as possible and with attrition high and many desperate to take falling actors place one often finds themselves obliged to play lip service to the whole charade that Hollywood and the entertainment industry in general imposes on its members. To speak out, to apologize, to criticize is frankly folly, then again in some instances, as in Ms Stewart’s it might also be a clever ploy to save herself from self damnation and to find some sort of catharsis, as much as we the audience seek catharsis….