In the continuation of our series of sexuality and its increasing polarizing dichotimies we choose to explore the heterosexual male. Or to be precise the almost hetero sexual male. Not to be confused with being overtly (or perhaps implictly) gay or bisexual today’s younger breed of men are willing to explore sexual taboos that would have once socially admonished them. From public hand holding, kissing to heavy flirting and some racuous petting…these boys are setting new parallels.
In this wonderful essay courtesy of one of our favorite journals (the Goodmenproject) writers Ritch C. Savin-Williams and Kenneth M. Cohen the writers seek to explore in delicious repertoire the tantalizing dialectics of the new modern male. He may not go all the way, but that’s not to say he wont go part of the way…
The article as it originally appeared recently.- Scallywag
Dillon, a college varsity hockey goalie, is an eager volunteer for our interview. In fact, he so loves telling his story that he stays beyond the 90 minutes he believes it will take, and offers to come back for the chance to talk some more. When we reschedule, he’s thrilled, and shakes my hand and thanks me four times in the process of leaving.
Besides being remarkably polite, Dillon is talkative, self-aware, and reflective, with an engaging smile and an at-ease quality. Nothing he says feels rehearsed. It’s as if each topic brings forth another triumph, as if he’s discovering his life as he reflects on the questions.
When eventually asked about his sexuality, Dillon isn’t fazed. Though he wants to “fuck lots of girls” before graduation, he’s not entirely heterosexual. “I’m not sure there’s a name for what I am,” he says. He wants this process, this interview, to help him figure it out.
By his own admission, Dillon says he resides in the “Sexual Netherlands” (his words), a place that exists between heterosexuality and bisexuality. In previous generations, such individuals might have been described as “straight but not narrow,” “bending a little,” and “heteroflexible.”