Angela Brower, 37, a victim of domestic violence has taken to posting graphic photos of her battered face on Facebook in an effort to spread awareness.
Fortunately for Brower she would be able to disengage with her abuser, a former boyfriend of six whom had became verbally and physically abusive towards her.
Despite what makes sense to most observers, victims of domestic violence rarely just get up and leave as they subsist on a vicious cycle of revolving violence.
Case in point, on May 18, Angela Brower’s former boyfriend came over to retrieve his belongings, but instead took to attacking his former girlfriend. Punching her in the face so hard that she was knocked out. Aka the images Angela has provided.
In a feature with huffpo, the domestic violence victim told: ‘The orbital bone around my eye was completely shattered and my nose was broken on both sides and very displaced.’
Incredulously Brower tells upon regaining consciousness, her former boyfriend took to beating her in the back of the head. After pleading with him to spare her life for her children, the man stopped, and that’s when she found a chance to escape.
When Brower was released from the hospital, she took to Facebook to share photos of her severely battered face.
“Does this look like LOVE TO ANYONE OF YOU?” she wrote.
Yet to be bittersweet perhaps the real question ought to be “DO I LOVE MYSELF ENOUGH TO REMOVE MYSELF FROM THIS ABUSE?’
heart-2-heart.ca: Understanding why women stay in abusive relationships or remain silent… Do any of these questions sound familiar? “Why don’t you leave if it’s that bad?” or “How can you let this happen?” or “If I was you I wouldn’t put up with that.” or how about the king of asinine questions… ” Why don’t you just kick him out? “
By asking those questions or making those statements, friends and family members are re-victimizing us. Not having been abused, they have absolutely no idea what it’s like to feel totally worthless and ashamed.
Their self-esteem has not been stomped into the floor. They have not been punched, stabbed, slapped, kicked, humiliated and degraded. They do not understand how the whole process of abuse gradually deteriorates soul and self… piece by piece.
Only those of us who are being abused can understand why we’ve stayed. We have a million reasons why we can’t stay and million reasons why we can’t leave.
In her feature, Angela Brower tells she wants other women to know the dangers of domestic abuse so they can get out of bad situations before they escalate.
‘I want to raise awareness for women who are afraid and ashamed of what has been done to them,’ she tells,
‘They blame themselves. I want them to know that it is not their fault.’
Brower adds it was the second time her ex-boyfriend hit her — and the last it will ever be.
‘I made a mistake and I took him back, and everything was OK for a little while,’ she goes on to tell, ‘If you have never been there, you can’t understand why people go back. Women follow their heart, they love them, they want to believe them when they say they will change, they lose their friends and family and don’t feel like they have anyone.’
Angela Brower’s former boyfriend has since been charged with aggravated assault and is being held on $20,000 bond.
Since undergoing surgery, Angela Brower has been posting photos of her recovery daily.
One post details her having to place a metal ring around her eye to stop it from collapsing, another post tells that the bottom left side of her face is still completely numb, with doctors telling her that the feeling might never return.
Aggravating matters is Angela Brower’s financial situation. As a server she lives paycheck to paycheck, and since the attack and surgery hasn’t been able to work and doctors don’t anticipate her being able to work for the next several weeks either.
‘I have health insurance, but it only covers half the costs,’ tells the battered woman, ‘I don’t want to lose everything I have because I fell in love with the wrong person.’
Brower is trying to raise money to cover her medical bills on GoFundMe.
Since the surgery, she said she’s feeling a lot better physically.
‘Mentally and emotionally though, it still takes some time,’ she tells.
Tennessee ranks as one of the worst states in the nation when it comes to domestic violence. On average, three women are killed in domestic violence incidents in the U.S. every day, according to the National Network To End Domestic Violence.
Need help? In the U.S., call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) for the National Domestic Violence Hotline.