Here comes a study that might have some of you intuitively agreeing with its findings. That chiefly as humans we’re pretty happy when we’re getting laid but increasingly even more happier when we’re getting more laid than our friends.
The study courtesy of Tim Wadsworth, an associate professor of sociology at the University of Colorado aimed to equate happiness to sexual frequency.
Going over data collected between 1993 to 2006 where a national survey asked up to 15 000 individuals their rate of sexual frequency, Wadsworth was able to discern the not too surprising revelation that the more sex one had the more happier they were. This controlling for factors such as health, education, marital status, etc.
So those who had sex at least a few times a month were 33% happier than those who did not. The more sex one had, the more happier they would also be as well. So for those getting it on at least once a week, where likely to be 44% happier than those not getting it on and if they were getting it on 2-3 times then 55% happier.
Of course the study also showed there was only so much sex one could have in a week or a day that would get one feeling a 100% happier than those who did not, because unfortunately life is full of awkward inconveniences like credit card debts, school exams, tv shows to watch and family obligations and so forth.
But here’s where ones happiness really seemed to flourish. When one perceived themselves to be having more sex than their peers.
sciencedaily: But he also found that even after controlling for their own sexual frequency, people who believed they were having less sex than their peers were unhappier than those who believed they were having as much or more than their peers.
“There’s an overall increase in sense of well-being that comes with engaging in sex more frequently, but there’s also this relative aspect to it,” he said. “Having more sex makes us happy, but thinking that we are having more sex than other people makes us even happier.”
Which is just a backhand way of saying human beings are mad competitive (in case you did not work that shit out by now). Which probably suggests the more money we have than our friends the happier we are and so forth until of course the money we have makes us suddenly makes us unhappy when we can’t get more of it, like sex of course.
Reflected Andrew Oswald, a professor of economics at the University of Warwick in the UK, who called the study interesting:
“We know that humans care deeply about things like their relative income and relative body weight. Apparently those concerns extend to the bedroom as well,” he said. “You just can’t take the human out of humans.”
Yet here in lies the punch, happiness it seems isn’t in relation to one’s own sense of contentment but in relation to other people’s sense of contentment or expectations. Of course that opens another can of worms too, trying to abide by others sense of expectations of you and what others think of you. Then again if you can manage the tricky feat of having more of the good shit than your peers you’re bound to feel quite good about life and yourself at least in the short run until you naturally begin to
panic wonder if your peers are now having more sex than you, which inevitably one day they will…
Told Tim Wandworth: “We tend to compare ourselves to people who are more successful than we are. They tend to have a drain on people’s sense of well-being. If we’re aware of that process, it gives us some control over the emotional content of our lives.”
So much for the idea of happiness being something within us…
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