Val Kilmer Anthony Bourdain suicide selfish Facebook post leads to divided responses. Was the CNN Parts Unknown celebrity chef selfish to take his own life?
Hollywood actor Val Kilmer has caused disconcert after posting on social media, Anthony Bourdain was selfish to have taken his own life.
In a lengthy and ‘controversial’ post Kilmer accused the celebrity chef of having committed suicide because he was unable to accept love.
Posted the actor in part on Facebook: ‘How many moments away were you from feeling the love that was universal’.
Adding, ‘From every corner of the world you were loved. So selfish. You’ve given us cause to be so angry. A spiritual guide once told me suicide is the most selfish act a human can execute and I was confused but she explained there’s just no mental place further away from humanity and purpose than the hypnotized numbness that creates the false picture of despair, that forces the victim, unaware, to believe, life’s legacy is over.’
But the 58 year old actor who has been struggling with his own mortality and bouts with throat cancer didn’t stop there.
Kilmer questioned how Bourdain’s suicide happened asking, ‘So what? I hear you took your life in Paris. What hotel? Did you relapse? Did you just get home from the best meal of your life? Did you cheat on your girl?’
Continuing, ‘Those of us that knew you are shocked and angry and angry and angry selfishly angry, for what you just did to us,’
‘Millions I should think. At least a million people like me who imagine they know you. Some imagine they know you even well.’
Added the actor who has beaten throat cancer for the time being, ‘Would you have taken your life two years ago when like me you were unable to take in food and move it with your tongue over your taste buds because your tongue was too swollen? Is too swollen? I think and dream and plan on eating and tasting and enjoying every meal I’ve ever enjoyed and every meal I’ve learned to enjoy in my imagination, Altho I’ve never met a meal I didn’t like in the last 40 years except anything with too much cilantro.’
Kilmer concluded his post by saying, ‘You left too soon. And I’m going to prove it.’
Which is to wonder, perhaps Kilmer does have a point, that one is obliged to put up with life and be there for it. While others would counter that responding logically to a disease, especially depression is counter logical by very definition and defies straight forward explanation and then again perhaps, irrespective of his presumably well meaning diatribe, Kilmer should have simply chosen his words more carefully especially as many are mourning….
Val Kilmer Anthony Bourdain suicide selfish heated debate follows:
And then there were these reactions on social media that caught this author’s eye. See what you think?
‘In my view the only person with any right to feel in any way upset, let alone angry, about this is the young daughter. Does Kilmer, whoever he is, really believe his hurt feelings are more important than the decision of anyone else, if he does he needs some sort of reality check?’
‘It is clear a lot of people have no idea about depression. Would you call someone with a visible illness selfish?’
‘Suicide is passing on your pain to someone else, it IS selfish, and his poor child, how can anyone do that to an 11 yr old child, sentence them to a life living with this??!!’
‘Stop adding to the stigma, please. You never know what is happening in someone else’s mind.’
‘We are all human, all go through depression and pain. When you stop fighting it is selfish! Speaking truth. Talk to someone, keep fighting!’
‘People who commit suicide are trying to stop the pain, they are not in their right mind, they are so deep within their own anguish that they can’t see a way out. You do a diservice to those struggling with mental health, to those who battle suicidal ideation to say its selfish. This hits too close to home for me. I love ya and have watched from a distance as you have become a warrior.’
While April Star Davis refused to hold back, posting, ‘Wow just wow it’s attitudes like this that make having this invisible illness deadly! Selfish you have no clue what it’s like then to have this illness and be in a place so dark and desperate that you feel the world would be better off without you in it!
I regret going to your art show and wish you could refund my purchase as I’m disgusted by every word here!
You have an illness you point out but it’s one that everyone rallied around and brings you flowers and wishes you well
We do NOT think for a minute if everything in the body can be affected by illness then why is it so hard to believe the brain can’t?
To imply your illness is worse is clueless and insensitive .. people are continuing to die from mental health related issues yet you like many think or imply we need to just think happy thoughts.’