Kristi Noem blindsided by husband Bryon cross dressing secret double life and fetish models as trove of images, messages released as couple’s diabolical marriage publicly implodes amid allegations of Kristi’s affair and her recent fall from grace.
Former Department of Homeland Security chief Kristi Noem has been left ‘blindsided’ over allegations (and released images) of her husband Bryon living a double life where he cross-dresses and chats online with fetish models.
‘Ms. Noem is devastated. The family was blindsided by this, and they ask for privacy and prayers at the time,’ Noem’s reps told the nypost, Tuesday.
According to the Daily Mail, Bryon Noem, 56, chatted up women from the so-called ‘bimbofication’ fetish scene, in which adult performers dress as real-life Barbie dolls, including augmenting their breasts with massive amounts of saline.
DISTURBING: Former DHS Secretary Kristi Noem’s husband Bryon has been exposed as a secret crossdresser who dons gigantic fake breasts, pink hotpants, and figure-hugging outfits to engage in explicit online chats with fetish models, according to The Daily Mail.
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Trove of images and messages released
Citing ‘hundreds’ of messages purportedly sent by three women from the scene, Noem’s husband enthusiastically praised their heavily augmented appearances, and proclaimed he coveted ‘huge, huge ridiculous boobs,’ according to the dailymail.
In one photo, Bryon Noem shared with the women, the fetish aficionado is wearing pink hot-pants and a flesh-colored, skin-tight suit. He appears to have put balloons in his shirt to mimic comically oversized, lopsided breasts – complete with fake protruding nipples.
Bryon is visible in several photos, one with a completely straight face while in other images, making a flirtatious kissy-face with pursed lips.
Kristi Noem husband send fetish models up to $25K
Bryon who made his fortune in insurance, allegedly sent women he met in the online fetish community some $25,000 via Cash app and PayPal as he admired their over-the-top bust sizes and ‘amazing’ curves, according to the dailymail.
He traded selfies with one woman he pledged to worship like a ‘goddess,’ telling her, ‘you turn me into a girl,’ before asking if he should ‘put on leggings.’
When she Googled Noem Insurance, she found pictures of Bryon and his DHS secretary wife, according to the dailymail. When she confronted him about it, he reportedly told her that ‘he didn’t care’.
The dailymail claims that Bryon did not deny taking or distributing the photos when contacted by them.
Public implosion of Kristi and Bryon Noem’s marriage
The outlet spoke to national security experts who surmised her husband’s alleged proclivities could have left the former DHS secretary – who was fired last month – vulnerable to potential blackmail.
The Noems have three children, daughters Kassidy, 31, and Kennedy, 29 and a son, Booker, 23. Kassidy and Kennedy both have children of their own.
The scandal comes as husband, Bryon has stood by his wife Kristi, 54, for two decades, with family members saying his Christian faith and the couple’s three children have kept him by her side.
The episode comes ongoing questions over the state of the Noems’ marriage in recent years, primarily concerning the ousted DHS chief’s relationship with Trump confidant Corey Lewandowski.
Lewandowski, who is also married, has been by Noem’s side at high-profile events and is rumored to be having an extramarital affair with Kristi.
Reports of the alleged affair first surfaced in 2023. At the time, Kristi was the Republican Governor of South Dakota, before being brought on to lead DHS until her abrupt sidelining last month.
Kristi was criticized by both Democrats and Republicans on her role at DHS after two U.S. citizens were shot and killed by ICE agents in Minneapolis, the expensive, government funded advertisements and the use of $300 million on three private luxury jets.
During a recent Senate Judiciary Committee hearing, Kristi dodged questions about the alleged affair as Bryon sat directly behind her. Indeed.
