In a sign that many still believe that rape victims implicitly deserve what they get, a disturbing interview on Fox News had one guest legal expert, Joseph DiBenedetto telling that Daisy Coleman should have known better when she turned up at Matthew Barnett‘s house at 1 am….
It all came to pass on a news slot hosted by Fox’s Shepard Smith who turned to legal expert Joseph DiBenedetto in discovering if one could make the argument (yes Fox know a good story when they see one kids…) that Daisy Coleman on some level had unwittingly set herself up?
Went on to contemplate defense attorney Joseph DiBenedetto: “There’s no denying that from the surface it appears to be some sort of cover-up,”
“But when you look at the finer details, there are telltale signs of this girl actually lying. She is leaving her home at 1 a.m. in the morning and nobody forced her to drink. And what happens? She gets caught by her mom, she’s embarrassed and the easy way out here is, ‘Mom, someone took advantage of me.’”
One can only imagine the viewer cringing as DiBenedetto goes on to make the case that on some level Daisy Coleman only got what she deserved, which is to say act or look like a ‘slut,’ then you only have yourself to blame? Never mind holding the perpetrator to account for manifesting a course of actions that should never be perpetrated under any circumstances.
Went on to tell the defense lawyer: “But what did she expect to happen at 1 a.m. in the morning after sneaking out?”
“I’m not saying — assuming that these facts are accurate and this did happen — I’m not saying she deserved to be raped, but knowing the facts as we do here including what the prosecutor has set forth, this case is going nowhere and it’s going nowhere quick.”
Went on to retort Shepard Smith: “What you’ve done, Joseph, is taken an alleged victim of rape and turned her into a liar and a crime committer,”
“That’s a far jump from a 1,000 miles away.”
And then this incredulous response from DiBenedetto which had my gills flapping in the wind:
“That’s one way to look at it,”
“Assuming that is the case, she wouldn’t be the first and she wouldn’t be the last.”
Perhaps what makes the above exchange most disheartening is Fox’s willingness to even contemplate that any young woman (yes ‘
slinky,’ ‘slutty’ women are the scourge of the earth in case you didn’t yet realize it) seeks her own self demise and on some level ought to be held accountable for less than stellar behavior which if she knew better would save her the misery of getting raped, but again the implication is it’s girl’s fault and a boy is just being a boy when he just wants to get in a girl’s pants, even an incapacitated 14 year old child, choking to the brim on alcohol content.
Then there was this comment on the web that made me wonder as well:
BULLSHIT! NO girl or woman deserves to be raped. It is very simple: if a girl is drunk, you don’t rape her. If a girl is scantily clad, you don’t rape her. If she is taking drugs, you don’t rape her. If she is walking late at night, you don’t rape her. If she is young and pretty, you don’t rape her. Whatever she is doing, wherever she is, whatever activity she is engaged in, YOU DON’T RAPE HER. Why is this such a problem for men (and even some women) to understand?? There is NO excuse for raping a girl. There is no reason you can give that will make her deserve it.
There is no reason why a man can’t control his sexual appetite–and if he refuses to, then that is HIS problem, not hers. She did not MAKE him rape her. She did not cause him to suddenly lose control of his dick. He did it under his own free will, because he wanted to hurt another human being in a show of power.
Rape is a crime. It is ALWAYS a crime–not just when a woman is sober, but when she is drunk, or high, or unconscious, or just not thinking straight. When you make excuses and say that some people deserve to be raped because of whatever reasons you fancy, you might as well say that murder is excusable, too, if the victim is walking alone at night or is wearing the wrong clothing or driving a nice car that the criminal happens to want. Yet, I doubt that you would ever excuse a murderer on any grounds at all. You would say that he had the power to control his passions and not commit the crime. Why, then, do you do completely the opposite when it comes to rape?