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#Slanegirl, slut shaming and why it’s always different for girls.

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Girl, #slanegirl, who gave blow job at Eminem concert is a slut, boy a hero.

In the face of lewd images of a 17 year old Irish girl, since disparagingly termed #slanegirl, going viral on the web, questions have been asked as to why the girl ended up being plastered in vitriol whilst her male suitors received hero worshiping.

At the time of the incident, the girl was photographed going on to perform fellatio with not  just one but two teenage boys during an Enimen concert. It wasn’t soon too long before the images ended up going viral courtesy of individuals who couldn’t resist capturing the improbable.

Whether the images were sent out in order to humiliate the girl (the overwhelming consensus) or simply share in the banal the result was an avalanche of vitriol and condemnation towards the girl whose identity went on to be released to the public, necessitating her to check into hospital after she was barragged with national condemnation and suffering from stress related symptons.

That said, a discussion has since ensued as to why the images led to the girl, #slanegirl, being vilified and why the male youth involved would end up being lionized.

Contemplated the newstatesman: In the world of popular sexual mores, public oral sex is apparently seen as pretty much neutral for men. It’s the woman who gets to be the repository for everything deemed “shameful” or “disgraceful”. A culture that hates women for having sex is one that simply hates women.

Which poses the question of why is it then that the woman who get to branded as the slut and the repository of public shaming whilst the man if caught in a similar guise is simply a man doing what men are supposed to do?

Is that suppose to infer then women are not supposed to participate in sex, but rather just give the illusion that they like it, lest some holy vision of them becomes tainted?

Never mind what men actually crave and want their woman to be like behind closed doors.

In a patriarchal society what often matters most isn’t necessarily the liberation of what males and females should be able to do but what females should be tolerated in doing in relation to dominant male enforced codes.

Then again perhaps the issue has nothing really to do with the superiority and subrogation of one gender over the other but rather how gender and sex can be objectified and dehumanized in the first place.

Reflects one commentator astutely on the web: Prejudice is inherently contextual, and anyone racing to establish that their group is the most oppressed ironically helps to bolster sexist stereotypes and the supposed thought process and actions of gender groups. It’s not helpful.

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And then there’s reflection courtesy of  the newstatesman in how we as a society have come to relate to images of women in suggestive repose: “… when some people tried to use the pictures to shame, trash and demolish a young woman. The lesson from misogynists is this: “We will come for you.”

And not just for being a woman and having sex, but for being a woman and not joining in the condemnation: women who asked why the boy didn’t get the same judgement have called man haters, told they need to raped or threatened with a “kick in the flaps”. A culture that hates women for having sex is one that simply hates women, and that is the grotty truth photographed at Slane.

Also catching my attention were these comments on the web as well:

It would be interesting to see what happens if the girl came out and bragged about giving the boy a blow job instead of, perhaps, acting like this was an embarassment imposed on her. 
In other words, own up to wanting the act and enjoying it. The boy looks like he’s in good enough shape. She scored!

 

Woman need to wear their “whore” badges proudly, just like men do……the problem is woman want to be whores, but don’t want to be called whores…….

 

 If women were similarly proud of their exploits (like Samantha of Sex and The City) they wouldn’t give a rats ass what they were called.  “You’re a slut!” would be greeted with “haha, yup!”

 

The people who uploaded these pictures are the ones who are culpable, they wilfully posted these pictures online and surely had some understanding of the abuse they may instigate. This insidious abuse that some dismiss as “harmless banter” can be very detrimental to someone. The emotional effects it can have are substantial and could easily induce depression. Anyone who thinks there is a rational justification for this vitriol is a fatuous imbecile.

 

Men suffer as well, in a legal system stacked against them, a culture that expects casual objectification and sexual assaults to be treated as complimentary and suffering disgusting slurs as misogynists from those who’d have us all believe that anyone with a penis is a potential rapist. The issue is objectification and dehumanization. Meanwhile, egalitarianism has been lost to misandry.

 

 

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3 COMMENTS

  1. Interesting how you staked MRA opinion on the very bottom. Is that for impact or you did not expect people to get that far?
    General consensus on this subject is ingrained hypocrisy of fisting-plus activists. If you want to be taken seriously in the equality fight perhaps it is unwise release identity of the boy? Even if she was knocked unconscious by the penis she was trying to fellate you are still expected to fight fair.

  2. I have no tolerance for bullying but maybe next time she should think twice before performing oral sex on someone in public. People must be accountable for their actions, even women.

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