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Is it okay for a man to act like a slut?

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Man whore. Pick up artist. Hero. Stud. These are some of the immediate thoughts that come to mind that describe a man’s accomplishments in relation to women. But then again listen to women and you might just hear the opposite- creep, sleazebag, douche. In a society obsessed with sexuality, being seen as sexual but not necessarily behaving like an overt sexual predator is a nuanced affair.

So much as it’s fine for a woman to talk about her feelings, her desire for sensitivity it’s almost taboo for a man. He is resigned if social expectations are to be judged to be the stoic achiever (the ‘nice guy’) who holds it all in until that is when he finds himself walking past a certain female and his natural impulses flair. How he behaves from that moment will affect the way he is perceived both from the female in question and quite possibly from his male friends who are panting for stories of the next kill. A kill that one may think a woman may want (otherwise who would ever be getting laid?) but may not want to explicitly broadcast. Which is another way of saying a man may act like a slut and a woman may and is fully encouraged to look like a slut (have you had a close look at most female magazine covers?) but just discouraged not to act like one…which probably goes a long way to explaining why in the end so much of many males needs find themselves expressed in porn, virtual fantasy, given the overt repression of society.

That said, I’ve decided to re publish this wonderful essay which came out in the Goodmanproject; ‘Why Do We Demonize Men Who Are Honest About Their Sexual Needs?’ as written by the erudite Clarisse Thorn (herself a woman) which seeks to explore this delicious quandary. So which one are you guys- a man whore or a creep? And what about you ladies- slut,vixen or just a hot tease? Let’s find out….- Scallywag.

This is an article about men, but I’m going to begin by talking about women’s experiences. Many of us women go through our daily lives fending off unwanted male attention; most of us have worried about being attacked by men.

If I stroll down a city street or take public transit alone, I can count on being approached by men I don’t want to talk to. If I walk home after dark, I can’t help fearing assault—so much so that if

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  • yes !!! isn’t that what men do 🙂

  • Bee

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