An online dating site, Carrot Dating has gone on to be slammed as a prostitution racket by detractors.
The site, the brainchild of Brandon Wade, the MIT alumni behind other controversial websites including whatsyourprice.com, SeekingMillionaire.com and seeking arrangement, tells Wade is a man’s best way to get a foot in the competitive world of online dating.
Tells the site’s press release: ‘Give a dog a bone, and it will obey. Give a woman a present and she’ll … ‘
‘Women have all the power in the online dating world: they receive countless messages from suitors, while men struggle for even a single reply.
‘But by ‘dangling’ the right ‘carrot’ in front of beautiful girls, suitors can convince anyone to say ”yes” to a first date.’
Nevertheless detractors claim the site is sexist and is akin to prostitution.
Tells businessinsider: ‘(It) sounds quite like an activity illegal in most of the continental U.S. — prostitution.
‘Aside from being blatantly sexist, Wade’s app clearly won’t “build the chemistry needed to fall in love” as promised in the press kit.
‘In fact, this problematic app is teaching men that women are greedy idiots who can’t see through blatant and pathetic misogyny.
‘And in turn, it’s telling women that behavior is totally acceptable, nay expected.
‘For the record, if you offer a woman a present in exchange for a first date, then you’re implying she can be bought, much like a hooker.’
Professor Edward Deci, a leading researcher in human motivation goes on to offer that building a a relationship on bribery is obviously setting yourself up for failure.
‘It is easy to get people to do things by paying them if you’ve got enough money and they’ve got the necessary skills … But they will keep doing it only as long as you keep paying them,’
‘And even if they were doing it before, when you stop paying them the behavior drops to a lower level than when you started paying them. We’ve done thousands of experiments on this over 40 years and the data is incredibly robust.’
That said, Wade goes on to insist that enticing gifts to women is the natural next step in online dating for men who are struggling to be noticed among the masses but fortunately in the position to outbid their competitors.
Tells Wade: ‘Beautiful people have all the power while the rest of us have to struggle for attention only to be lost in the crowd.
‘Don’t feel powerless – it’s time to use a technique our ancestors have perfected over the centuries – bribery.
‘But we’d rather call it an incentive.
‘Or, simply put, to dangle a carrot.
‘It’s the best way to motivate an animal – a man or a woman – to do exactly what you want.
‘Take back the power.’
And then there this was contemplation on the web that made me wonder too:
Where there is a demand, there is a supply. Have you ever taken a biology class? You realize that the most basic biological function of a male is to convince a female to allow him to inseminate her, right? No matter how much you don’t like it and get upset, biology won’t stop influencing culture.