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The Power of the Pussy. Who really calls the shots?

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The battle of the sexes…

Contrary to common belief- women are not the disadvantaged gender that they so often claim to be. If one pays attention to certain laws of nature and the cultural binary constructs in place one could perhaps walk away with the view- that it is in fact men that are the disadvantaged gender.

In fact when it comes to romance and interpersonal relationships it’s women who often hold all the cards. Often placed on an elevated pedestal, the quest for a woman’s love, her sex is the ultimate game that one can play. But of course unlike most games, this game is stacked in a woman’s favor- assuming she looks the part she is supposed to play (this is what society deems is the benchmark with respect to a woman’s femininity-  is her ability to look polished, have her armpits shaved, her fingers manicured and hair and breasts appropriately rendered if need be ) where as a man is asked to play the confident Hollywood engendered role (which becomes the preconceived role for all men to play otherwise they are boxed out).

This creates a dilemma. All a woman has to do to be feminine – is conform to billboard looks, where as a man can only be considered masculine and thereby desirable as long as he achieves the stereotypical ‘male’ attributes of status, power, financial mobility and one assumes a wonderful disposition to boot.

Which is to say a man is forced to go out and conquer and portray preferred patriarchal qualities that intimate he is indeed a man worth giving it up to. Of course what makes this all so hilarious, it’s always the same minority of men who get most of the women (after all there is a finite list of what is deemed alpha males)  while most men are left in no mans land and limbo. Silently seething and wondering what it must be that they are doing wrong and wondering whether buying some book which purports to teach them about female psychology will inevitably help them land the ‘babe.’ (of course last time I checked- I failed to find a book on how women should go out and pick men up at bars).

It is these men who are forced to live on the fringe who in some sense give women the axiom- ‘the power of the pussy.’ Until he can re finagle another way to challenge the dominant bull that is ‘banging’ all the females, he is at a woman’s mercy and whim- and as long as he plays into the patriarchal set up he will always find himself at a disadvantage. Instead of being accepted on his own terms he must transform himself even against the grain of his being until it is perceived he now finally qualifies for first prize- a woman’s sex.

What makes these dynamics even more suspect is that women will so often  complain about two timing womanizers  (the alpha males) when in reality it’s women who are so often ‘man-anizing’ men- assuming such a word could be used to describe the vernacular behavior of many competitive women ogling the perceived prize male catch.

Day in day out if one pays attention, it seems the dominant role of the media is to remind us who is beautiful, who is to be celebrated and who is to be speculated upon. Rest assured – it’s all a calculated gambit- with the ultimate buyer being the female (she is always deemed the representation of what society should want) who holds her sexuality as the golden carrot to the highest bidder. So often the highest bidder is the one who constructed the system, and owns the means of communication, production to remind women that it is indeed he above all other men who holds all the coveted features that a woman should fumble for, never mind when his attention strays when a new younger woman enters the room.

A casual observation on the cover, on the billboard, the advertising package will show the sexually suggestive appendage of a female who can be had, emulated if one is willing to play ball, conform to power roles, but ultimately only if she agrees to it. Thankfully she will agree to it, because she has spent a lifetime being reminded that she must fall for it (the endless supply of Hollywood figures and pop idols that she should be allowed to give it up for rolls off the tongue the way an icicle drips at the hint of sun glare) and that her ultimate value in society is to be only realized when her femininity is appropriated by a male. In the interim she can flaunt her sexuality, but the implied message is – until it has been consummated it is not entirely legitimate- it’s just a tease.

This interestingly creates the paradox that ultimately it is indeed the alpha male who holds the power of a woman’s happiness. Without a binary relationship with a man, society is prone to be weary. A single woman north of 30, let alone 35 is to be frowned upon and no matter what she is able to achieve outside of her love life- she will be implicitly condemned for failing to conform to stereo roles. Of course if she is a cultural icon, like a super model, pop star, actress (and unfortunately nothing much else it seems) she is allowed latitude, but only because she is perceived to be a provocateur of relevance beyond her appearance.

Ultimately its when a man grows beyond the grasp of a woman’s need that he is able to defy the axiom of the power of the pussy. It is after all the oxymoron, that what a woman ultimately finds attractive is what she can never have- the man that will forever refuse to yield to a woman- hence her so often attraction to ‘bad boys.’ Which suggests as long as a woman is deemed to have power

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  • gasel

    Hy

  • wiseone

    WELL SAID! taken with a grain of salt – very accurate.

  • Frank Zalkers

    Ya, I get what your saying. I understand its the women who choose the men, and men have to fit into stereotypes also. the thing your missing is that the ones in power always have the most to lose, and the farthest to fall. This article talks about the “power” of women, but it is called “power of the pussy” Your labeling women as “pussy.” Your objectifying women by referring to them as pussy, that pussy is their source of power, and that’s shallow and sexist. Women are more than pussy, and until we realize that, and separate the two, until we can see a women for more than her biology and physiology, the power is meaningless. 1 out of 3 women get raped or physically assaulted within their lifetime. There ain’t much power there.

  • I stand corrected…touche!

  • Have you been to a strip club, Scally? In each sweaty club cast in neon is the most amazing faux mating performance ritual. Master of the Universe wannabes vie for their favorite female’s attention. Painted dancers compete for the man with the most resources. It’s the most brazen show of stereotype on earth, illustrating sociobiology in exaggerated fashion.

    Yet what’s also true is that we are more than our sex drives: our intellects matters (nothing turns some women on more), our feelings matter, and looks and beauty can be prisons.

    Archetypes are great storylines, but they make rotten humans.

    P.S. — That so-called pussy you show is most definitely a boy’s!

  • Andrew

    Well, it’s an interesting description of how certain men and women try to maximize their chances of success in a patriarchal society. However, the people you are describing are victims of a fucked up form of social conditioning. I try to avoid people who are infected by this appalling disease.